Friday, June 21, 2013
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
My childhood was very happy before my mother became ill. There were lots of hugs and kisses. She would braid my hair; swing me on the wooden swing my Father attached to our weeping willow tree in his garden. There were lots of home cooked meals, her favorite past time was cooking.
2) How has life changed since she was diagnosed and has progressively gotten worse?
We were very close my mother and I while I was growing up, her illness has been like a divider between us. But the distance forged between us was not because I do not remember that love, it is because I can no longer feel it. She can’t express herself as she would like. There are no more hugs or sounds of laughter. All conversation between us is one sided because of the inflammation in her throat that makes it difficult for her to talk. We all suffer from her illness because of the lack of expression. While I do try and continue showing love and caring for her, its harder for me because I need my mother and she cant be there for me as I would like.
3) What was the first thing you thought when you first heard the accusations against your father?
I didn’t believe them. My father has never given me a reason to fear him or think terribly of him. So as these accusations were thrown at him, it was in my mind at first, undeniably false.
4) If you try to clear your mind of everything good you know about your father, is there anything from the past that may hint of him being guilty?
No. While I do not spend every minute with my father I cant say I can recall anything that would give me pause enough to be concerned. If he was guilty of committing any sin, he did so outside of the house and kept it very well hidden. This is why these accusations are so bizarre to me.
5) How has the public's reaction toward you changed since your father was accused?
For one, the constant Media attention is mind boggling. I am a very private person. Now my family’s name is all over television, the reports camped outside our house, they followed me to my Aunts house. We cant really use the telephone because they are constantly calling, and oh I should not forget to mention I am being stalked by a victims family member.
6) In this time of extremely stressful situations, how do you relieve your tension that must be mounting?
I’ve cried. At first I had been able to confide in my family because they have been there every step of the way. Its more horrible for my mother than myself. She cant express how hurt she is or vent. She can only cry silent tears.
7) Do you have any other family you turn to at the moment?
When my father was first arrested we stayed with my Aunt Philina and her family. My Uncle Jed has flown out to be with us, and my best friend/cousin Constance is a riot to be around. I just hope that they will stay by our sides as we forge through all this turmoil.
8) Had you heard much or gave much thought to the Potomac Creek serial killer until your father was accused?
I actually had no clue who or what that was about. Detective Harsen the arresting officer had been very surprised I had no idea a serial killer had been lurking around for twenty-six years. To be honest, I have been so absorbed in my life and my mothers health I didn’t really pay much attention to life outside my front door or on the outside of going ot school and working part time.
9) What is the greatest lesson you have learned in life?
Life is precious. Seeing my mother suffer so much throughout our lives has taught me this. I cherish each moment I am given with her, who knows what the future will hold for us now.
10) Is there anything else you would like to tell us?
There is so much I have left unsaid because there is so much to tell. But I made sure to record it all; I made sure I left nothing out in my story. And I would love to share that with my readers. I hope they can understand my plight and learn from my experiences.
Friday, June 7, 2013
Today we have Jacob Barnes from In Jen's Words stopping by. Let's get started:
What prompted your run for mayor?
I've lived in Springwood, Ohio all my life, and nothing is the way it used to be. So many changes need to be made to ensure Springwood citizens receive the justice, rights, and full opportunities this city has to offer.
At what point did you realize your sister had a mental illness?
Sadly, not until she was abducted by Davis Cauley. When he hacked my campaign site, and videotaped Jen as her alter personality took over, it was mind blowing to say the least. Rest assured though, I am seeing to it she receives the full therapy she needs to get through this.
What can you tell us about her other personality(s)?
What can I say about Tammy? She is the full opposite of my sister, everything Jen is not. Vindictive, flirtacious, and very blunt. A lot of other women would call Tammy, and excuse my language, a bitch.
Do you believe your sister in any form had anything to do with the murders?
It's truly hard for me to believe Jen had any part in any of it. A lot of people are going to say my thoughts are biased, being her older brother, but anyone who knows Jen, from her best friend to her boss, could tell you she would never hurt a fly.
Has there ever been a moment you wish you hadn’t had to take on the responsibilities of your siblings?
No one really wishes for their parents to be killed and have to take on the responsibilities of raising a teenage brother and sister. But I was not about to have them end up in Foster care, even though I was pretty young myself. I did what needed to be done, and I will never regret it.
How do you juggle running a campaign and dealing with the family issues?
Luckily I have a great team helping me out, including my best friend Danny Nixon who has been responsible for creating my website, along with my logo and putting it on buttons, shirts, and stickers.
Do you believe if you hadn’t run for mayor, all this drama would have been avoided? If so, would you make the same decision again
That's a very good question. It's very possible much of it could have been avoided. I feel that Davis Cauley had numerous issues, and seeing me in the spotlight angered him and brought those issues back out. I am very thankful to be where I am right now, nothing would have made me change my mind. You can try to use my family as leverage, as I believe he did, but you will never win.
What can you tell us about your parents? How did their passing affect your family beyond you stepping in as a parent?
My dad worked for a global networking company and was gone much of the time, but when he was around he was fun, loving and supportive. My mom held different jobs over the course of her life, but for the most part was a stay at home mom, who loved us and looked after us. There are really no words to describe when your parents are taken from you at any age. It was a senseless tragedy that neither of us will probably ever really get through. You just deal with it, and go on with life, try to make it the best way you know how.
What are your plans once everything settles down and is straightened out? Can there for a normal future for your family?
Define normal. Every family has their ups and downs, and there's no arguing that my family has definitely seen what can only be described as a harsh reality. It's not every day you discover the little sister you raised from the age of 13, has an alter personality. As for plans once this unfolds, and gets ironed out, it certainly calls for a vacation for us Barnes.
Is there anything else you would like to tell us?
I would like to thank everyone who has supported me and my family so far. I know we have certainly given people something to talk about, and we still have a long road ahead of us. As mayor of Springwood, I fully intend to prove that the voters will not regret putting me in office
Thanks for stopping by today!